Supporting a loved one through infant loss can be challenging, but your empathy and understanding can make a significant difference.
What to Say
Offer Condolences: Simple statements like “I’m so sorry for your loss” can be comforting.
Listen: Sometimes, being there to listen is the most valuable support you can offer.
What Not to Say
Avoid Clichés: Phrases like “It was meant to be” or “They’re in a better place” can feel dismissive.
Don't Minimize the Loss: Avoid suggesting that they can “have another baby” as a way to move on.
Practical Help
Offer Specific Help: Rather than saying “Let me know if you need anything,” offer specific assistance, such as cooking meals or helping with household chores.
Respect Their Grief: Understand that everyone grieves differently and give them space when needed.
Understanding the Grief Process: A Guide for Friends and Family
Grief after infant loss is a long and complex process. Understanding what your loved one might be going through can help you provide better support.
Stages of Grief
Shock and Denial: Initial disbelief and numbness.
Anger and Bargaining: Feelings of frustration and helplessness.
Depression and Reflection: Deep sadness and contemplation of the loss.
Reconstruction: Slowly beginning to find ways to move forward.
Acceptance: Coming to terms with the loss, although the pain remains.
Ongoing Support
Be Patient: Grief has no timeline, and your loved one may need long-term support.
Check In Regularly: Regular check-ins can show that you care and are there for them.
Encourage Self-Care: Gently encourage them to take care of their physical and mental health.
Understanding and patience are key in helping your loved one navigate their grief journey. Your support can make a profound difference in their healing process.
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